The No. 1 lesson that I learned from my struggles and painful experiences

Struggles, pain, obstacles, and setbacks… I had my fair share of those.

I struggled with depression, eating disorder, health problems, pain from losing my father at the age of 12, challenging and painful childhood and finding my purpose and meaning.

My seeking started when I was 18. When I was 20 my depression took the best of me and I was in a really dark place. Then, little by little, step by step, I started to change my life and let go of my past.

I had some painful and dark days but they were filled with collateral beauty. I have come out stronger because of it.

You are not your story

I always say that my life started when I was 22. I didn’t become a new person then, I become myself and found myself then. That was the year when I started to be my best self and live mindfully and authentically.

This was a process of growth and learning, changing and clearing, filled with lots of little steps, that continued throughout the years.

I’m sure you have your own story to tell, your own struggles to share. However, what I learned from my struggles is that I am not my story, I am not my pain, and neither are you.

Mindfulness is the practice that can remind you of that.

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Be the Observer

You are not your past, you are not your circumstances, you are not your problems. You are not your emotions, you are not your thoughts. You are the one behind them, you are the one observing them.

What I learned from my struggles is that I am not my story, I am not my pain, and neither are you.


If you approach them from that detached place, from the place of non-judgment, if you just observe them to see what happens, how they look like, what color are they, how they taste like, what shape do they have, then you will see that they have no power over you.

You will see through them, you will see the space behind them, they will just dissolve and all that will left is you as an observer.

From that place, answers and solutions to your struggles will come.

Have you tried to incorporate mindfulness into your life?

Until next time,